A gathering of ideas, rants, reflections leading up to the big day
Thursday, February 28, 2008
In December, while at my folks home for Christmas they threw a lovely Engagement Party for us. That day it snowed 6 inches, which in Kansas can equal up to several feet of snow in some areas due to drifts. FI got his first chance to shovel snow (and his second and third!). While it made for a lovely picture-perfect Christmas, it really kept the guests away. We had 20+ people brave the cold and snow and it was a great time, but my BM who lives in NYC, who I see once a year couldn't make it. Overall we had a lovely evening and it was great to see some people who have known me since I was 13, which for a kid who moved around a bit, thats a record!
A few weeks ago while my mom was here, we went to lunch at the Arizona Inn with the Tootsies. The Tootsies are 3 special ladies in my life who provide great support and laughter. I don't see them enough, but they are dear to me. To our suprise the Tootsies had ordered champagne and paid for the lunch to treat me and my mom. It was not only great to have the ladies meet my mom, but it was one of the first days I felt like a *Bride*! Heck I got a complimentary Baked Alaska! If that doesn't make you feel special, I'm not sure what can!
In a month I'll attend my bridal shower in Phoenix. My FSIL is planning it and 3 family members are flying out to attend with me. I'll have 2 out of 3 bridesmaids there as well as the flower girl. My mom will meet my FMIL for the second time! After the shower, my mom, SIL, niece (aka flowergirl) and Tucson BM will stay the night in Phoenix. The shower is mainly FI's family and their friends, but I'm still excited for the event. It will be my first bridal shower I've ever attended!
Although we still have 7 months till the wedding it is fun to begin the celebrations!
Wednesday, February 27, 2008
I heart this photo of me and my mom. FI took it last Saturday (our rest day) during our hike in Madera Canyon (see the snow?). Who knows what we are chatting about, but we are deep in conversation.
We had a really great visit!
One of the best parts of wedding planning has really been sharing with her (although it hasn't all been easy, there have been plenty of phone calls that end with me in tears). My mom is very practical as well as creative. Her practical side came in handy when she finally solved my ceremony crisis. 6 months of struggle for me, 20 minute decision for her. My mom's creativity was apparent while we were looking at books (and books) of invitations.
My mom will be back in one month for a shower and another visit! This next visit will be all fun, no work, and my niece and SIL will be here too. I am looking forward it!
Tuesday, February 26, 2008
This is what I want. I want a multiple strand twisted pearl necklace. But for $1,850 from Tiffany & Co, I will not be wearing this particular necklace. It is exactly what I want. 16 inches in length and a lovely simple clasp.
This more affordable version for $135 from JC Penney is nice, but I don't want the mulitple colors. But I like the qualities. Again it is 16" and the clasp looks more sturdy than above.
Worn with my pearl studs, I think the necklace would really compliment my dress and add the right about of class, classic-ness (is this a word?) and bling to my day. More than just a single strand, a twisted strand would really add some punch!
Monday, February 25, 2008
I am happy for them and looking at Jenny today as she talked about the ceremony and reception really excites me for when I am on the other side of wedding planning. Jenny is tanned and relaxed and just - is. She shared a few stories but overwhelmingly, you could feel the happiness that she exudes.
I am looking forward to being on the other side!
Saturday, February 23, 2008
I've been tagged by Linda at Silly Little Mischief, so here I go!
1.What is your occupation?I analyze and develope fundraising strategies for a local non-profit.
2. What color are your socks right now? no socks!
3. What are you listening to right now?The computer humming, and a few desert birds calling.
4. What was the last thing that you ate?my pre-run yogurt, 4 hours ago.
5. Can you drive a stick shift?Sure I can, but if you ask FI he says no. Lets just say if need be, I can do it!
6. If you were a crayon, what color would you be? Mauve
7. Last person you spoke to on the phone?FI. He is outside changing his breaks and I won't let him in the house when he is this messy. So he called to ask for water.
8. Do you like the person who sent this to you? I enjoy her blog!
9. Favorite drink? lately I've really been enjoying gin & tonics.
10. What is your favorite sport to watch?College Football, but Spring Training is right around the corner!
11. Have you ever dyed your hair?Every 5 weeks, gotta keep the grey away until after the wedding.
12. Pets?Fi says I don't NEED a dog, because I love every one I meet. So instead of the whole world's a stage...Every dog is my pet? I'm not buying it.
13. Favorite food?Yummy Food! (i'm sticking with Linda's answer)
14. Last movie you watched?No clue, but I'm going to see 27Dresses with Mel & Jenn today!
15. Favorite Day of the year?Hands down, my birthday. Maybe my wedding day will inch it out this year.
16. What do you do to vent anger?I save it all up and run it out.
17. What was your favorite toy as a child?Flopper my Pound Puppy (she still holds a place in bed)
18. What is your favorite, fall or spring?Arizona Fall
19. Hugs or kisses?hugs.
20. What kind of pie?Cherry pie. I have great memories of my Grandpa serving me pie and ice cream for breakfast.
21. Living arrangements?Desert oasis with FI.
22. When was the last time you cried?Last night, I watched a re-run of Friday Night Lights...sheesh.
23. What is on the floor of your closet?A bag of clothes to donate, shoes, shoes, shoes.
24. Favorite smell? FI, coffee beans and street fair smells (Fry bread, spilled beer, people, bbq)
25. What inspires you?Everything.
26. What are you afraid of?Jumping castles, disembodied hands (like mannequin hands) and ladders.
27. Plain, cheese or spicy hamburgers?Yes please.
28. Favorite car?I am really digging on the new Porsche SUV. Cayenne. Spicy.
29. Favorite cat breed?Dogs.
30. Number of keys on your key ring?3: house, work, car
31. How many years at your current job?1 year next week! Woot!
32. Favorite day of the week?Sunday. I love lazy Sundays. ( I agree Linda!)
33. How many states have you lived in?4: Pennsylvania, Michigan, Kansas, Arizona
34. How many countries have you been to? I count 5: Ireland, Britian, Scotland (I don't recognize the Queen, the good scotsman I am!) Canada, Mexico
Friday, February 22, 2008
Thursday, February 21, 2008
The first card I received was from Hana. She took the photo herself and printed it on a lovely piece of cardstock that had a lovely subtle pattern to the paper. Hana has a shop on Esty with her photo cards
My next card came from Kim. She used a pretty deep red card stock. Notice her rounded corners! The word "flirt" was glittery as was a pretty little heart on the inside.
The last card (and my favorite) was from Nicole. She left a lovely personal message on the back (the rest of us left the same generic message) along with her email (I need to drop her a line). Using some pretty blue craft paper, she added her hearts along with the red accents.
Here are all three together. I really cherished getting them in the mail. I hope I get to participate in future swaps!
My FSIL is throwing me a shower. She gave me a two month window and was kind enough to let my visiting family dictate the date of the shower. I am thrilled an honored by this. When I shared this recently with a friend her response was "isn't this really too early for a shower?" Perhaps, but what would this friend like me to do? Tell my FSIL that etiquette suggests that a shower should be with in 2-3 months of the wedding date. Or perhaps invite my family to Arizona in July or August (2-3 months from the wedding date) and have the shower then. Yup, it'll only be 110 degrees!
What makes others feel like they can comment on my wedding plans? People seemed to be annoyed when I refrain from sharing EVERY detail with them (really, if you are invited, don't you want somethings to be a surprise?) Yet when I do share, they feel they have a right to criticize my plans. And on this particular issue, a shower, I officially have no say! I am honored to have a FSIL who wants to do this, I feel as if I am at her mercy, not in a position to negoatiate. I feel blessed that my SIL and my niece and my mom will be able to fly out to do this.
This trend seems to be a greater societal issue. When did we all become so comfortable nitpicking each other? Boundaries are not what they were.
This wedding has become a labor of love. I have thought about and weighed all my decisions carefully.
Of course, my complaint doesn't apply to things I post on my blog. These blogs are open for comment and I appreciate all opinions and comments that have been posted thus far.
Monday, February 18, 2008
I'm not sure how well they photographed, but you can see the emerald green and the teal on the ivory background.
What do you think?
Sunday, February 17, 2008
BUT, seriously I am crashing from my wedding. My mom and I really rocked the itenerary added things to the list and crossed them off. We have this whole celebration planned, budgeted and done. Then yesterday evening, we were sharing a drink in Tumacacori with FI and he says to me, lets scrap the whole thing and get married in Tumacacori. WHAT?! Then later last night, when we are again discussing our decisions re: dessert, he says he doesn't want what we have decided on...ie, what I have been talking to him about for months.
Now, I know that he doesn't REALLY want to get married in Tumacacori, but come on dude! And what bothers me most is that I talk to him, I TRY to involve him, I WANT him to be part of the process and for months he has said fine, yes, sure to every decision and last night he says what he really wants is cake. Great, I am glad he wants something and that he has an opinon about something, but couldn't he have told me before I did the math and the research and the budgeting and late nights weighing my options? And what else is he going to come out and say no to after months and months of planning?
I do want him involved and I recognize that this is his wedding too and if I hadn't tried so hard to involve him, maybe this wouldn't bother me so much.
Wednesday, February 13, 2008
For me this was a great exercise. I haven't participated in any fiber arts since the Tohono Chul Postcard Exchange March 2006. Paper and fiber really are not my medium. I scoured the internet for inspiration and stumbled upon the best option, where else, from Martha. I followed her directions, wrote out my shopping list and spent too much money buying supplies and tools for the cards.
Here is the final product. I am pretty pleased!
I bought a pack of craft paper (MS at Michael's, of course) in the colors I wanted. I cut out a heart - free hand - and when I finally had a decent heart, I used that as my template for all the others. I folded each heart in half and with my new 1/16th of an inch hole punch I punched holes in to the hearts and the white paper that served as a backing. I strung different colors of twine through the hearts (red & white, pink & brown). I mixed and matched the colors of hearts and overlapped them a bit on the white backing. Then I simply used double sided tape to affix to the card.
I realized I needed a message on the inside. For fear of screwing up my card, I used craft paper from the same pack, cut out a piece and wrote a simple greeting (these are strangers!). I followed up with the twine theme and tied one piece through the top of the insert. I felt kind of bad about my cards, so I found these cute coasters at Target for $1.00 and wrapped them in tissue paper and included them inside the card.
Tuesday, February 12, 2008
Monday, February 11, 2008
Sunday, February 10, 2008
I always kind of assumed I'd have my hair done: curled or up or something fancy. I never imagined that having my hair straightened would be considered having it "done". But I love it, and I think it looks and most importantly it lasts!
Now, if I can just get everybody to stop asking me if I am going to grow my hair out for the wedding (seriously people...I've been engaged for almost a year, wouldn't I have started growing out my hair then!)
Friday, February 8, 2008
Scene: FI and I at dinner last night and I explain to him how excited I am for my (much needed) hair appointment on Friday. I ask him to remind me to put my digital camera in my purse because my awesome hair dresser/friend Jamie has graciously offered to do a hair trial after every hair cut. So last time I came straight home (with my super cute straight look) and took photos, but this time I wanted to take photos right after, then later on in the evening to test the endurance of my hair.
FI gets a strained look on his face, then admits that he TOOK my camera and left it at work. So no camera for me. But he offered to drive (20 minutes) from work to my hair salon at lunch to drop it off. Yeah right! He offered this gesture at 8:00pm.
At 8:30 we had our first Jumbo. At 12:30am we stumbled out of the bar. So this morning through my hangover fog, I wondered to myself, would he REALLY take the camera in? Would he even remember?
I just got a call from FI, he just delivered the goods to the salon. I can't believe he remembered and that he was able to do it. He rocks my socks off.
Thursday, February 7, 2008
Wednesday, February 6, 2008
Monday, February 4, 2008
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