Um, I really thought we had a fabulous idea. Now, I am concerned about how this will be perceived.
Here's the story: We are inviting 150 people to the whole shebang: ceremony, dinner, dessert, dancing. We are inviting 80-100 people for dessert, drinks, late night food.
Then yesterday on my beloved Weddingbee I read this board about another bride doing the same thing! The other brides were not so nice about the idea.
Let me explain. We don't have a b-list (secondary guest list). We are really fortunate that our guest list of 147 is all our family, loved ones and friends. We have a second list (lets call them the others, shall we) of 80-100 friends that are just pals. The others, they aren't the B list of guests, they are people who would not be invited to our wedding otherwise. The others are people who we were once close to, but no, not so much. The others are our tailgating buddies. The others are our favorite bartenders. The others are co-workers and former co-workers. The others all live in the Old Pueblo. Our feeling is we want to share our day with a bunch of people and if that means the dude who sits next to us at the bar three days a week...that's who is coming.
We spoke to some close advisers and they all approved. We poured over our guest list, and poured and poured. So here we have it: 147 invited to it all, and about 100 for after dinner. As we start getting no's back, a few of the 100 will move into those spots, but very few.
When the others show up, dinner will be cleared, dessert will be served, bar will open. A late night snacky treat will be served at 9:45ish.
What do you guys thinks (I may regret this open ended question)? Do you think it is rude to the others? How would you feel if you were an other?